It reduced and eliminated negative emotions and memories associated with my past:

• rape, sexual harassment,

• bullying - I can face my bully without feeling anger, fear, stress, sweaty hands, overthinking all the possible scenarios of the possible meetings, what I would say and how I would behave,

• toxic relationships - my feelings of blame, pleasing others, what happened during those relationships and why,

• my childhood: my unmet needs of love and safety, being unseen and unaccepted; being neglected, ignored and disregarded, emotionally manipulated, and physically abused.

It allowed me to access the buried emotions, that I didn't know I had (at some point in my life, anger was covered up by disappointment, sadness by resignation, numbness even).

Setting boundaries, standing up for myself, saying “No” to others without feeling guilty and running back to apologise

I learned to listen to my gut feeling. Something children of BPD parents stop doing at the very young age.

And that's what it means to be grounded.

I cry, I feel anger and sadness during the sessions (tapping), but at the end of the tapping I am calm vs the traditional therapy with psychologists, where I'd leave shaking, relieving and re-experiencing all the stress and anxiety from the past.

I learned to understand my emotions -- they are there to tell me something about a person, situation, myself

I learned that my needs are important to me. I am important to me. My emotions and feelings are important to me. I have the right to be tired, not to attend others needs, take a time off and not be responsible for others emotional state, e.g. inability to accept a “no”.

I learned to listen to my body - any tension, any contraction, any shakiness tells me something about myself and the situation I am in.

I can stay in the same room, exist and live in the same flat with someone who reminds me of my borderline mum and her behaviour. I keep calm, unaffected. I don't take the behaviour of the other person personally, and my body doesn't respond with: stress, anxiety, overthinking, panicking, the need to run away, or suicidal thoughts.

I learned how to deal with stressful situations on my own, e.g., conflicts and confrontations, talking to emotionally unstable people, neutralising my triggers and red buttons that were created in my childhood.

I stopped having physical reactions like: digestion problems, my abdominal shaking like crazy in trauma-similar situation, one of my fingers stopped having open wounds, pain in the low back, pain in the neck, shoulder pain, pain in my right piriformis muscle, itchiness, and dandruff of my scalp.

I learned how to be present in a situation, instead of having a “system freeze”, and then wondering what was said, why I didn't react right away.

I learn how I sound, feel, behave when I relieve my childhood trauma. I become aware of what patterns of behaviours I repeat in that situation, and can actually decide if I want to change it.